We often find it hard to be open to others, especially in this culture of “Keep Calm and Carry On”, but that is not how God intended us to be living. The enemy would love for us to remain silent on matters, and keep things pressed down, believing it to be better to keep things hidden then to bring them out in the open. We begin to believe lies about our situation – I am the only person to feel this way, or If they only knew the truth, then they wouldn’t like me quite so much… These lies, when allowed to, give the enemy authority to rule them over us, preventing us from moving forward and weighing us down as we live out our lives. Jesus came so that we may live a life free from burdens and junk, so that we may be free to enjoy live to the full. Anytime we are not living in this way, we are perhaps still holding on to a lie from our past.
There is something powerful that happens when we open up to someone and confide in them. I believe that God honours those who are vulnerable. The bible tells us to confess our sins to each other, not to keep them penned in, which will only bring us ruin. When we actively speak out our sins to each other, we are releasing ourselves from the bondage of that sin. Freedom comes when we do this, fullness comes when we do this. By confessing to others, we are breaking the power the issue has had over us, and giving room for God to restore us back to what He has intended us for.
Of course this doesn’t mean we go around bearing all for all to see, we must be careful about who we confide in. Proverbs tells us to guard our heart, Jesus tells us not to throw our pearls before swine, we need to be wise to who we open up to.
Vulnerability is not a sign of weakness, but of strength. When we recognise the need for opening up, sharing what’s on our heart, we recognise that we were made for community, for union with others. The enemy would love to isolate us, and make us think that we are the only person on the planet dealing with that particular issue.
A hidden sin will fester and manifest itself in many different ways in our life, it’s time to break that power, it’s time to get vulnerable. When given space, what was once a small issue in our life has now become massive. If God already sees you as holy and blameless, then what use is it to hold on to something you have done it the past, believing that the best thing to do is to keep it covered up? That’s not helping anybody, especially yourself.
It may not necessarily be a past sin you are dealing with, it could be hard for you to just open up and share your emotions with someone. Men are particularly good at this. They find it hard to distinguish between emotions and so blanket it by saying they are tired, or hungry, when really there is more going on then they are willing to share, or even then they are aware of.
So, how are you doing when it comes to opening up, to being vulnerable with someone? Sometimes it is a trust issue, where we have been hurt in the past and so don’t want to fall into that trap again, when really we need to forgive the person who hurt us, and move on, recognising that there is, in fact, power in vulnerability.